When my son was born, I didn’t know motherhood can be a woman’s greatest glory and her worst nightmare. The fact that he came out screaming should have been a clue about the nightmare part!
When the nurse put that squirming, squalling bundle in my arms on the delivery table, I started singing “Jesus Loves Me.” Andres quieted down instantly, and my heart nearly burst for the glory of it because I’d sung that song every day during my pregnancy. But as soon as I finished my song, he went right back to crying.
The next day I walked out of the hospital holding my brand new baby, with no clue about what awaited me. I didn’t know about pacing the halls with a baby at 2:00 a.m., but I survived the first weeks, and by the time my baby was 4 months old, I felt almost human again.
Most days the joy swallowed up the nightmare part. When my Camilla was born, her dad and I were goners. She stole our hearts and still does.
I loved motherhood, but I had to learn one important thing.
Although being a mom made me happy, there was plenty not to like about it. After all, I hadn’t signed up for ear infections that kept me up all night or kids vomiting in the car. I certainly didn’t sign up for the teenage roller coaster. Now there are new ways to lose sleep when a young person needs to talk, or you just can’t go to bed when they’re not home yet.
I’m learning motherhood is not all about me. Maybe my desire to be a mom initially centered around me. I wanted happiness and fulfillment. I didn’t realize God had a bigger plan to use my kids to shape me.
God uses motherhood both to bless and mold us.
Motherhood is both a joyful blessing and a refining fire that enlarges our hearts. We learn love. We learn sacrifice as we get by on less sleep and stretch our money further. We learn to give as we sit down to one more super hero movie. It’s all part of God’s polishing process.
God uses us to shape our kids, but He also uses them to shape us, and that is part of the glory:
We can resist God’s molding or we can embrace it.
We hinder God’s work in us when we yearn for the past. On the taxi-driving, homework-helping days, part of us might yearn for the time when we could have coffee with a friend whenever we wanted.
We miss what God wants to do in us today when we long for the future. On the dog-tired, laundry-piling-up days, our focus leaps to the future. We dream of finally getting enough sleep or actually going to Target alone.
What if we embrace what God’s doing today?
Your stage may be different than mine, but I want to keep my eyes open to the wonder of watching two young adults grow into the people God created them to be. Whether we’re belting out “Like a Rolling Stone” in the kitchen or walking in the park, I want to show my kids a little more what Jesus looks like. What wonders are you looking at today, friend? What would Jesus be doing if He were hanging out with your kids today?
Let’s let God have His way in us.
What if we lean into God’s purpose and plan as He shapes us? On the glory days, we give thanks. On the days when motherhood wears us down, we lean into God’s power. When we fail, we trust Him to complete His good work He in us. We won’t get everything right, but we can show our kids a little bit of Jesus today as we let God mold us.
Now it’s your turn: What’s one way God is using motherhood to mold you?
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Sarah Donegan says
They certainly are used to shape me. I love my girls, and they are both fun. Both preteens, so it’s not all fun and games, but what stage is? Happy Mother’s Day!
betsydecruz says
Happy Mother’s Day to you too, Sarah!
Michele Morin says
So true!
Motherhood has been the sandpaper God has used to knock some of the rough edges off me, and mostly in the area of trusting Him for the incomprehensible.
I love how you felt “almost human” after four months. Oh, I so remember those days!
Rebecca Hastings says
I loved the question you have in the tweet box! What would Jesus be doing?! I love it!
betsydecruz says
Thanks for the encouragement, Rebecca!
Jarm says
This is so good, Betsy. Just the perspective I needed!
betsydecruz says
Blessings to you, Jarm!
Linda Stoll says
Hi Betsy … let’s just say those early days of mothering were most difficult, stressful.
the best days of mothering are right now … as my girls reach 40.
;-}
betsydecruz says
Hahah! You’re making me laugh here, Linda! I love it! You mean mine’ll turn 40 one day??? 🙂
Joanne Viola says
Beautiful and oh so true! My children have surely grown me in more ways than they could realize. Happy Mother’s Day to you!
betsydecruz says
Happy Mother’s Day to you too, Joanne!
Lesley says
This is a beautiful post, Betsy! Hope you have a happy Mother’s Day!
betsydecruz says
Thanks Lesley! Happy Mother’s Day to you too!
Lisa Appelo says
Motherhood is one of the most sanctifying things God has brought to my life. And He’s not done using it when we launch our kids. That season shows I still have SO much to chisel out. Great words, Betsy, and timely.
betsydecruz says
Yes, I think you’re right, Lisa! I’m seeing that too. He’s not done yet! Something tells me He will continue our whole life long.
Sarah Geringer says
Love this post, Betsy. So true…God has used me to shape my children, but they have also shaped me. Happy Mother’s Day to you!
betsydecruz says
Happy Mother’s Day to you too, Sarah!
Liz says
Oh my goodness! He is teaching me so many lessons from my littles! Mainly I see myself in them and see they way they see me, which is typically a good indicator of where I need the Spirit to take over my flesh! Such a wise lesson here! Blessings, friend!
betsydecruz says
Yes, I see myself in my kids often too, Liz! I’m needing the Spirit to take over right now. Right here. This very day!