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When You Need to See the Glory in Motherhood

May 9, 2018 by betsydecruz 19 Comments

Does motherhood wear you out like it does me? This one surprising truth about motherhood will help you see glory and purpose, even on the hard days.

When my son was born, I didn’t know motherhood can be a woman’s greatest glory and her worst nightmare. The fact that he came out screaming should have been a clue about the nightmare part!

When the nurse put that squirming, squalling bundle in my arms on the delivery table, I started singing “Jesus Loves Me.” Andres quieted down instantly, and my heart nearly burst for the glory of it because I’d sung that song every day during my pregnancy. But as soon as I finished my song, he went right back to crying.

The next day I walked out of the hospital holding my brand new baby, with no clue about what awaited me. I didn’t know about pacing the halls with a baby at 2:00 a.m., but I survived the first weeks, and by the time my baby was 4 months old, I felt almost human again.

Most days the joy swallowed up the nightmare part. When my Camilla was born, her dad and I were goners. She stole our hearts and still does.

I loved motherhood, but I had to learn one important thing.

Although being a mom made me happy, there was plenty not to like about it. After all, I hadn’t signed up for ear infections that kept me up all night or kids vomiting in the car.  I certainly didn’t sign up for the teenage roller coaster. Now there are new ways to lose sleep when a young person needs to talk, or you just can’t go to bed when they’re not home yet.

I’m learning motherhood is not all about me. Maybe my desire to be a mom initially centered around me. I wanted happiness and fulfillment. I didn’t realize God had a bigger plan to use my kids to shape me.

God uses motherhood both to bless and mold us.

Motherhood is both a joyful blessing and a refining fire that enlarges our hearts. We learn love. We learn sacrifice as we get by on less sleep and stretch our money further. We learn to give as we sit down to one more super hero movie. It’s all part of God’s polishing process.

God uses us to shape our kids, but He also uses them to shape us, and that is part of the glory:

Does motherhood wear you out like it does me? This one surprising truth about motherhood will help you see glory and purpose, even on the hard days.

God uses us to shape our kids, but He also uses them to shape us #motherhood

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We can resist God’s molding or we can embrace it.

We hinder God’s work in us when we yearn for the past. On the taxi-driving, homework-helping days, part of us might yearn for the time when we could have coffee with a friend whenever we wanted.

We miss what God wants to do in us today when we long for the future. On the dog-tired, laundry-piling-up days, our focus leaps to the future. We dream of finally getting enough sleep or actually going to Target alone.

What if we embrace what God’s doing today?

Your stage may be different than mine, but I want to keep my eyes open to the wonder of watching two young adults grow into the people God created them to be. Whether we’re belting out “Like a Rolling Stone” in the kitchen or walking in the park, I want to show my kids a little more what Jesus looks like. What wonders are you looking at today, friend? What would Jesus be doing if He were hanging out with your kids today?

What would Jesus be doing if He were hanging out with your kids today? #motherhood

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Does motherhood wear you out like it does me? This one surprising truth about motherhood will help you see glory and purpose, even on the hard days.

Let’s let God have His way in us.

What if we lean into God’s purpose and plan as He shapes us? On the glory days, we give thanks. On the days when motherhood wears us down, we lean into God’s power. When we fail, we trust Him to complete His good work He in us. We won’t get everything right, but we can show our kids a little bit of Jesus today as we let God mold us.

Now it’s your turn: What’s one way God is using motherhood to mold you?

Note: This is a re-edit of a post that originally appeared on KristiWoods.net. Check out Kristi’s beautiful site.

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Comments

  1. Sarah Donegan says

    May 9, 2018 at 6:39 am

    They certainly are used to shape me. I love my girls, and they are both fun. Both preteens, so it’s not all fun and games, but what stage is? Happy Mother’s Day!

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    • betsydecruz says

      May 9, 2018 at 8:27 am

      Happy Mother’s Day to you too, Sarah!

      Reply
  2. Michele Morin says

    May 9, 2018 at 8:37 am

    So true!
    Motherhood has been the sandpaper God has used to knock some of the rough edges off me, and mostly in the area of trusting Him for the incomprehensible.
    I love how you felt “almost human” after four months. Oh, I so remember those days!

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  3. Rebecca Hastings says

    May 9, 2018 at 11:40 am

    I loved the question you have in the tweet box! What would Jesus be doing?! I love it!

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    • betsydecruz says

      May 9, 2018 at 1:37 pm

      Thanks for the encouragement, Rebecca!

      Reply
  4. Jarm says

    May 9, 2018 at 12:33 pm

    This is so good, Betsy. Just the perspective I needed!

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    • betsydecruz says

      May 9, 2018 at 1:36 pm

      Blessings to you, Jarm!

      Reply
  5. Linda Stoll says

    May 10, 2018 at 8:07 am

    Hi Betsy … let’s just say those early days of mothering were most difficult, stressful.

    the best days of mothering are right now … as my girls reach 40.

    ;-}

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    • betsydecruz says

      May 10, 2018 at 2:20 pm

      Hahah! You’re making me laugh here, Linda! I love it! You mean mine’ll turn 40 one day??? 🙂

      Reply
  6. Joanne Viola says

    May 10, 2018 at 12:47 pm

    Beautiful and oh so true! My children have surely grown me in more ways than they could realize. Happy Mother’s Day to you!

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    • betsydecruz says

      May 10, 2018 at 2:20 pm

      Happy Mother’s Day to you too, Joanne!

      Reply
  7. Lesley says

    May 10, 2018 at 12:53 pm

    This is a beautiful post, Betsy! Hope you have a happy Mother’s Day!

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    • betsydecruz says

      May 10, 2018 at 2:21 pm

      Thanks Lesley! Happy Mother’s Day to you too!

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  8. Lisa Appelo says

    May 10, 2018 at 3:39 pm

    Motherhood is one of the most sanctifying things God has brought to my life. And He’s not done using it when we launch our kids. That season shows I still have SO much to chisel out. Great words, Betsy, and timely.

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    • betsydecruz says

      May 11, 2018 at 6:24 am

      Yes, I think you’re right, Lisa! I’m seeing that too. He’s not done yet! Something tells me He will continue our whole life long.

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  9. Sarah Geringer says

    May 11, 2018 at 5:57 am

    Love this post, Betsy. So true…God has used me to shape my children, but they have also shaped me. Happy Mother’s Day to you!

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    • betsydecruz says

      May 11, 2018 at 6:24 am

      Happy Mother’s Day to you too, Sarah!

      Reply
  10. Liz says

    May 11, 2018 at 6:10 am

    Oh my goodness! He is teaching me so many lessons from my littles! Mainly I see myself in them and see they way they see me, which is typically a good indicator of where I need the Spirit to take over my flesh! Such a wise lesson here! Blessings, friend!

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    • betsydecruz says

      May 11, 2018 at 6:25 am

      Yes, I see myself in my kids often too, Liz! I’m needing the Spirit to take over right now. Right here. This very day!

      Reply

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